Last week I delivered meals to two families with newborns. One family is on it’s second time around, the other family is brand new to the wonderful world of having a newborn.
How it seems like yesterday for us! I know it’s been 8 months since the kid was born… but holy hell, that was one crazy roller coaster.
Before you have a kid, everyone tells you how you’ll miss sleep, you have no idea how your life is about to change, words can’t describe the feeling, and get ready for life as you know it to no longer exist. Well, it’s true. When Thad was born we were on cloud nine! It was so insane that we MADE a little human being. If you don’t believe in miracles or something bigger than yourself, then have a kid, your world will be ROCKED.
Then came the sleep deprivation. And all the issues around breastfeeding (and the stress!!!). And freaking out if we were doing it right. Were we feeding him enough? Was he gaining enough weight? Why wasn’t he gaining weight? And wondering if he was normal. Honestly, we spent the first 3 months wondering if our kid had autism… but then we realized that he was just a newborn and newborns weren’t supposed to make eye contact and they were supposed to just lay there like little aliens. (I wish someone told me this!)
So 8 months into it, I now feel like I might know what I’m doing, but I definitely would not call myself a pro. I certainly feel more confident, but there’s still that pressure of wondering if all the sleep training we did is going to screw him up in the long run. Or if he’s eating enough “solids”, or if I’m feeding him the right solids because he won’t eat baby food (kid loves pickles!). Least we know he’s normal and that he’s just a skinny kid because of a little thing called genetics (seriously, I’m not this dumb, I just play one on TV). I guess one thing that no one ever told me was that having a kid tests your logic. That would have been good to know.
Looking at those newborns last week made me want more kids, but definitely made me want to skip those first three months of crazy.