Being the primary scheduler, home keeper, family welder, caretaker, comedian (obviously), wrestler, chef, gardener, dog feeder/walker, cleaner, organizer that I am, I tend to be 100% in charge of the McK Family social calendar.
I set up a Google calendar for the hubs and I to use so we can both see what’s happening and when — and it’s working great! For the most part…
We are a little less frantic with the schedule now, but what tends to happen is that since I “own” the calendar (I’m the one putting in all the updates and events) I tend to make all the plans. Play date with a girlfriend and her son on a Sunday? Sure thing!
This weekend I had a few things to take care of for myself and took a little “mom time” in the afternoon before we headed to a friend’s house for a nice dinner with the little man. Then on Sunday I planned to head to SF to see a friend and her son — Thad’s birthday twin to be exact — and Mark had the day to himself. The only problem with my planning — is that regardless if I mark it on the calendar or tell him about the upcoming weekend, he’s so focused on work doing his part in the family that he forgets what I tell him because it’s not top of mind and then he’s left not sure what to do with himself and tries calling other dad friends last minute to see if they can “play.”
Then I came up with a brilliant idea.
Hey hubs. How about you have a monthly Dad Day? You know, where you get the day free to do whatever you want?
Sure, wife. Sounds great.
And what if we plan for it?
And you know what? How about you get two Dad Days a month? How does that sound? Every other Sunday. Do you think that would work for you?
Wife, you really are the best.
So there you have it. We’re going to start implementing two monthly Dad Days where the hubs can do whatever he wants for several hours. Bike ride? No problem! A day golfing? Sure thing! Want to go surfing for a while? Why the heck not?
And the best thing he said to me?
He said, wife, you really ought to have some mom days too. You know, so you can go do what you want to do without the kid.
So we’ll try it out and see how it goes, but I’m pretty sure it will be great and will stick because it’s really a win-win. Mark gets to have some solo time doing the things he loves, and I get to have some time to visit with friends I don’t get to see too often.